It is important to have our own story, not to be enslaved by the story someone else imposes on us — but a time comes when we have to stop believing our own story too.
There is a Japanese saying: “Not knowing is ignorance, and knowing is delusion.” But there is a place outside of these two, that includes both of them, and it is the very heart of Zen practice:
Showing up.
Meeting the moment as a participant, not a commentator. Meeting it rather than judging it. Hearing our own incessant commentary without believing it.